Teen Dating Violence

The information in this section is for teen dating violence, in order help you understand more about teen abuse.

What is teen dating violence?

It is what happens in a teen dating relationship when one person uses physical or emotional or sexual abuse to gain power and keep control over the other person.

What do we know about teen dating violence?

  • Studies show that at least one in five teens will be in an abusive relationship.
  • It’s not easy to leave an abusive relationship at any age. It’s even harder for teens to leave abusive relationships because of fewer resources and uninformed adults who think it’s ‘just two kids fighting.’
  • Abuse happens in all different kinds of relationships, including same sex / same gender relationships.
  • Teen dating violence can happen to anyone, no matter what their race or where they live.

For Info on Teen Dating Violence call the Teen Line – (602) 248-8336

1 in 5 teens will be in an abusive relationship. Learn the warning signs and what to do. The seeitandstopit.org website is a great place to start.

We’ve also collected info on Teen Dating Violence which you may find helpful.

The Facts:

  • Between 10 and 25 percent of girls between the ages of 15 and 24 will be victims of rape or attempted rape. In more than half of those cases, the attacker is someone the girl goes out with.
  • Girls are not the only ones who are abused physically or emotionally in relationships. Boys also experience abuse, especially psychological abuse. Boys rarely are hurt physically in relationships, but when it happens it’s often severe. Boys can also be pressured or forced into unwanted sex, by girls or other boys.
  • Approximately 20% of high school girls have reported being physically and/or sexually abused by a dating partner.
  • 40% of teenage girls age 14-17 report knowing someone their age who has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend.
  • 20% of female homicide victims are between15 and 24 years of age.
  • The Justice Department found that women ages 16 to 24 are the most likely victims of intimate partner violence.
  • Violence happens in same-sex relationships too. When it does, gay and lesbian teenagers often don’t know where to turn for help. If they are not comfortable telling people that they’re gay, that makes the situation even harder.
  • Teen dating violence can happen to anyone no matter where they live or what kind of home they come from.
  • It is hard to leave an abusive relationship at any age. Victims need support, safety and assistance in order to leave.

AzCADV Teen Dating Violence Special Report

Warning Signs

  • Controlling you
  • Insulting you
  • Scaring you
  • Hurting you
  • Excessive jealousy
  • Uncontrollable anger
  • Threatening suicide if you want to break up
  • Not allowing you to go out with your friends
  • Telling you how to dress, act or think
  • Accusing you of flirting
  • Blaming you for violence
  • Pulling hair
  • Threatening to find someone else
  • Making all the decisions
  • Following you around
  • Destroying letters, gifts or other possessions
  • Forcing sex

Dating Bill of Rights

I have the right:

  • To ask for date.
  • To refuse a date.
  • To be treated with respect always.
  • To choose and keep my friends.
  • To tell my partner when I need affection.
  • To refuse affection.
  • To change my mind – at any time.
  • To leave a relationship.
  • To be treated as an equal.
  • To refuse sex at any time for any reason.

I have the responsibility:

  • To determine my limits and values.
  • To communicate clearly and honestly.
  • To ask for help when I need it.
  • To not humiliate or demean my boyfriend or girlfriend.
  • To refuse to abuse – physically, emotionally or sexually.
  • To take care of myself.
  • To respect myself and my boyfriend or girlfriend.
  • To allow my boyfriend or girlfriend to maintain their individuality.
  • To be honest with each other.
  • To set high goals.

Ten Questions

How can I tell if I’m in an abusive relationship?

  1. Are you afraid of the person you’re going out with?
  2. Are they jealous, possessive, constantly checking up on you?
  3. Do they call you names, embarrass you in front of your friends?
  4. Do they say that you are nothing without them?
  5. Do they scare you, threaten you?
  6. Do you feel forced into sexual activity?
  7. Does the person you’re going out with abuse alcohol or other drugs and pressure you to use?
  8. Is the person you’re dating nice and sweet some times and really mean at other times?
  9. Do they make promises to change abusive behavior? Do they minimize the harm they do to you? Do they blame you?
  10. Does the person you’re dating make your family and friends uneasy and concerned for your safety?

If you answered “yes” to any of these questions you could be in an abusive relationship.

You may want to learn more about teen dating violence and safety planning. If you need to talk, call the Teen Lifeline. (602) 248-8336 or (800) 782-6400